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If you keep running from your problems, you will never find a resolution to them. When you try to pretend like your problems aren’t there, you’re only making them worse: the longer you avoid seeking solutions to your problems, the more difficult they become to address. Too many people attempt to sham like they have conquered the quandaries that have given them the most pain. It’s becoming popular for many people to say they’re “reinventing themselves,” “renewing themselves,” “living a new life,” and etc., but the reality is a true change in your life materializes conspicuous signs of change—not facades. When many people say the aforementioned things, they’re making an effort to have others to believe their lies; they want others to think they’re living a life where they’re facing their problems directly when they’re not.
If you’re really “reinventing” yourself, “renewing” yourself, and “living a new life,” then why are there no substantive ostensible changes in your life? Why are you unwilling to truly be yourself? What continues to hold you back from real progress? At the core of the answers to those questions is one’s intentional effort to run away from, hide, disguise, and bury his or her problems instead of working to defeat them.
You don’t have to live your life trying to hide and evade your problems; you can conquer them. You must, however, be willing to deal candidly with those problems. One can make serious progress toward remedying his or her quandaries when he or she musters the courage to confront them boldly. Too many people attempt to bury their problems behind materialistic phenomena like money, cars, clothes, jewelry, houses, jobs, degrees, and etc., but trying to camouflage those things that are eating away at you will inevitably lead to your own undoing.
Although you may fool a number of people with your efforts to present your life as devoid of problems, the majority of folks know you have some problems—no matter what you say. Everything’s not always going good for you. Life exposes us to occasional challenges and problems, so don’t try to act like you’re so special and exempt for this reality. When you invest significant time in trying to prove to others that you’re living a newly “invented” and “transformed” life, you already know authentic happiness doesn’t exist in your life, and you’re the one who is preventing real happiness from existing in your life.
Don’t allow pride to keep you from asking for help from others. Additionally, don’t let your pride be the ultimate source of your problems.
It would be so much better to see someone truly living an ameliorated life than living a life of continuous lies; a life where one dons a faux happiness. While things may not be going great for you right now, don’t try to pretend like they are. Make a strong effort to engender the change in your life that will produce genuine positive results and progress—not results and “progress” that have to be fictitiously manufactured.
Boldly face your problems today and have a truly improved tomorrow.
Antonio Maurice Daniels
University of Wisconsin-Madison