Your greatest enemies may not be the folks you think: they may be the people you least think. It’s vital for you to keep your eyes and ears tuned to what’s going on around you. By doing this, you can become more aware of things that can be transpiring behind your back. Unfortunately, too many people hang around individuals who they think support them, but behind-the-scenes they’re stabbing them in the back. Yes, folks will laugh with you on the phone and when you hang out, but that does not mean they really like you. They may be using their ability to stay in close connection with you to plan and execute their evil hidden agendas.
Watch out for those people who are always talking about someone to you; chances are they’re talking about you with someone else.
We often don’t engage in enough careful thought about the people in our lives. Those people you allow in your lives can be some of the very individuals causing you to experience the most vexing problems. From my experience with people who have been my undercover enemies, I can tell you that I didn’t take serious the warning signs they might be or become my enemies. While I placed trust in them and devoted significant time to them, I failed to recognize the impact their selfishness and low self-esteem would have on me. When you love someone, a natural proclivity to accept all that comes with him or her surfaces. I Peter 1:8 informs us that “love covers a multitude of sins.” When you have true love for someone, it will, indeed, cover a multitude of his or her sins. What you have to do, however, is not allow your love for people to keep you in a state of blindness.
When people don’t really care for you, they will do some direct and subtle things to you. It’s your job to look for those direct and subtle things. The subtle things can be the most challenging to detect, however. What I have found to be one of the most useful ways to determine if someone close to me or someone I spend a considerable amount of time with is really against me is to have honest conversations with him or her about our relationship. I’ve learned to ask the following questions and more: What do you like most about me? Why do you enjoy spending time with me? What do you dislike most about me? What’s one quality you adore most about the person you admire most? When you ask the aforementioned questions and more, observe any selfishness you see in the responses and any low self-esteem that could ultimately cause problems in your relationship. Look for any uneasiness the person has speaking about the relationship you share.
If you talk to a person long enough, he or she will tell you everything.
Again, I’ve had some enemies I was unable to identify, but I’ve provided you with ways to recognize your own undercover enemies. Although you might not want to hear it, you should watch out everyone; nothing’s wrong with being too careful. Even your closest friends and family members may allow themselves to be used by the forces of evil.
What do you do now that you’ve identified your undercover enemies? Don’t let them know you know who they really are. Discontinue hanging out with them and talking to them on the phone. Let the relationship die a natural death. Most of your undercover enemies are arrogant enough to think you’ll never discover who they really are, and they will think they hold a certain power over you with this “secret knowledge.” You will, however, be the one with the real knowledge and power. You will have removed their disguises and they will not even know it, and you will have the power to turn their evil plans upside down—they’ll never see it coming!
What are some of the problems you struggle with? Share those problems with me. We may be able to arrive at some solutions together. It’s a good thing to converse with people who are genuinely committed to helping you solve your problems.
Antonio Maurice Daniels
University of Wisconsin-Madison