Everything is not always going to go your way. When things fail to go your way, don’t try to force the environment in which you’re situated to be dominated by your negative mood. People are not always going to do what you want them to do. You have to learn to control your emotions.
You will not always get your way.
While many adults make a serious effort to teach children that they will not always get their way, many adults need to be taught the same thing.
Don’t “fly off the handle” simply because people don’t respond in a tone that is exactly the kind of tone you desire.
When you have unacceptable mood swings, swing your attitude immediately in the direction of your lips and bust yourself in the mouth with it (your attitude). If you want to hurt someone with your attitude, hurt yourself. It’s unfair to take your emotions out on those who don’t deserve to feel the stinging effects of your reckless emotions. If your emotions change with the wind, you will find that people are not going to want to be around you, and they will remember how terrible you treated them when you feel like being in a good mood.
The world does not revolve around you. People are not placed on this planet to please and serve you. Before you get an attitude with someone about much ado about nothing, try to consider the things that person may be going through and how they don’t need you imposing your nasty attitude on them.
Even people who claim to be considerate of others and claim to live an honorable life, they still need to do a daily self-assessment to make sure their not making everything about themselves.
You need to be sure that you’re not taking everything so personally.
Check your attitude. Check your words. Check your actions. Check yourself.
Antonio Maurice Daniels
University of Wisconsin-Madison
- Mood Swings: PMS and Your Emotional Health (everydayhealth.com)
- Exercise as a Mood-Lifter (everydayhealth.com)
- Picking Yourself Up When You’re Down (nonaknowsbest.wordpress.com)
- Anger an Enemy in us (roopas.com)
- On Anger (confessionsofalatteliberal.wordpress.com)
- Doing What Doesn’t Come Naturally (psychcentral.com)
- My Worrying and My Bad Mood (psychologytoday.com)
- Sad or Angry? Depressed People Struggle to Tell the Difference (psychology.about.com)
- Are You Making Your Kid Angry? (christinehammondcounseling.wordpress.com)
This is a timely blog post for me, T! I recently fell victim to this. Some individuals misplace their anger with the people that have only cared about them the most. I have seen it done in friendships over a woman or man, in family relationships over the favoritism of a child and in the forcing of incompatible platonic relationships. One of the most poignant lines for me was, “It’s unfair to take your emotions out on those who don’t deserve to feel the stinging effects of your reckless emotions.” Let’s just say that I would consider the aforementioned statement the perfect implied thesis in an introduction paragraph for the topic of this article. 😉 Keep them coming, T!
Thanks, San! People have to learn to do a better job of controlling their emotions. Folks must own their emotions. I understand people having an attitude from time to time, but that attitude should never be taken out on those who have nothing to do with their attitude. I also have a difficult time dealing with those who have frequent mood swings and treat you nasty just because things are not going their way. It’s really a shame. Thank you so much, San!