Don’t Get Erased—You’re Not Irreplaceable

Many people think that they’re irreplaceable.  Please think again.  There’s nothing that’s so special about you that cannot replaced.  When people start to demonstrate to you that they believe that you cannot make it without them, then you need to show them that you can.  You will find out that you don’t need those people in your life who feel that you’re nothing without them.  Who are they to think this in the first place?  People can think that they’re so much better than you, but you have to let them know that they’re thinking far too highly of themselves.  You can communicate just how much you’re not dependent on the people in your live who feel like you cannot make it without out them by severing all connections and communication with them.  Then they will have an opportunity to understand how they can be replaced.

It’s excessive hubris that causes people to consider themselves as irreplaceable.

When you erase those folks who act like they’re irreplaceable from your life, they will start to see just how valuable you’re to them.  Unfortunately, it could be too late for them to have a chance to have you to once again become a part of their lives again.  It can be quite challenging to get someone to become a part of your life again once they have made a firm commitment to erase you from his or her life.  Therefore, don’t allow your thinking, words, and actions to put you in a position where someone you really love feels compelled to erase you from his or her life.

You can also fool yourself into believing that people are not important in your life.  You can pretend like people don’t offer you many physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual benefits.  When people become fed up with you not valuing them and taking advantage of them, they will inevitably break all ties to you.  In the end, you will have to determine whether your excessive pride was more important than what you lost in those people.

No man or woman is an island.  Therefore, we all need people in our lives to help us and care for us.  Don’t ever develop a mindset where you feel like you can make it solely on your own—you will fail miserably.  You may think that you can be happy all by yourself because of your wealth, achievements, degrees, and etc., but none of those things you can truly enjoy all by yourself.  Ultimately, you’re going to want to share the value of those aforementioned things with at least one special person.

If you have special people in your life who have really proved to you that they love you, then you need to let them know you truly appreciate them.  Don’t walk around trying to prove to them that you don’t need them—prove to them that you love them and appreciate them.  Why are you walking around trying to prove to someone who truly loves you that you don’t need him or her, especially when the person has not given you any reason to need to prove this?

You need to know that people can replace you.  They can find another person to be that person you are to them.  You’re not so great that your replacement is difficult to find.  In fact, your replacement may already be someone a person has in his or her life.

Get real—you’re not irreplaceable!

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison

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12 comments

  1. I think sometimes we feed ourselves these lies to make ourselves feel better. Anyone can be replace, I do truly believe that. Even though we don’t offer the same qualities, someone else will offer something just as special. NAW BUMP THAT! I’m irreplaceable

    1. Lmbo! Okay, Drew, you’re not irreplaceable. Lol! Seriously though, many people have a mindset that people cannot make it without them, as if they are God. For me, this mindset is more than flawed but also sinful. Sometimes we can find another person who has the same qualities as another person, but we have not noticed those qualities in another person because we have reserved those qualities to a particular person because our mind has given them that specific space, as if it is only that person who can demonstrate those qualities. Yes, we have special people in our lives and those special people can be replaced with new special people. As always, Drew, thanks for reading and your response!

  2. Good read but I do believe its not the other person you should be looking at. Look at yourself first, no matter how “horrible” you think a person is being they are only being themselves it’s you with the problem and the person who’s putting up with their actions. So ask yourself what is your self-worth.

    1. Thanks! Many people, including myself, do a tremendous amount of self-examination–many of us do it daily. However, that does not excuse people from acting towards you as if you cannot take a breath without them. Therefore, this article informs folks to no longer associate with people who act like this because truly they don’t have their best interests in mind. This article does not assume that anyone, including myself, is not flawed; it does argue that when people think you need them and cannot make it without them that this is a flaw that one should not tolerate. Thanks for reading and your feedback.

  3. I am VERY irreplaceable! Yes, I said it….he will never find another like African Mami…close, but never quite like me!

    Therefore, to this article I highly submime!

    1. Everyone is replaceable. Although God made you special, He made other people special too. However, the main point of the article is not to allow people in your life to act in a way that demonstrates that you would be nothing without them and that you cannot make it without them. The only person we cannot make it without is God.

  4. hey i liked this read very much! thank you for the reminder, i wish that everyone could get a chance to hear what you are saying. we are definitely all replaceable in relationships, jobs, friendships, you name it! very humbling and very true…
    xx ~ kristina

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