Many people think that they’re irreplaceable. Please think again. There’s nothing that’s so special about you that cannot replaced. When people start to demonstrate to you that they believe that you cannot make it without them, then you need to show them that you can. You will find out that you don’t need those people in your life who feel that you’re nothing without them. Who are they to think this in the first place? People can think that they’re so much better than you, but you have to let them know that they’re thinking far too highly of themselves. You can communicate just how much you’re not dependent on the people in your live who feel like you cannot make it without out them by severing all connections and communication with them. Then they will have an opportunity to understand how they can be replaced.
It’s excessive hubris that causes people to consider themselves as irreplaceable.
When you erase those folks who act like they’re irreplaceable from your life, they will start to see just how valuable you’re to them. Unfortunately, it could be too late for them to have a chance to have you to once again become a part of their lives again. It can be quite challenging to get someone to become a part of your life again once they have made a firm commitment to erase you from his or her life. Therefore, don’t allow your thinking, words, and actions to put you in a position where someone you really love feels compelled to erase you from his or her life.
You can also fool yourself into believing that people are not important in your life. You can pretend like people don’t offer you many physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual benefits. When people become fed up with you not valuing them and taking advantage of them, they will inevitably break all ties to you. In the end, you will have to determine whether your excessive pride was more important than what you lost in those people.
No man or woman is an island. Therefore, we all need people in our lives to help us and care for us. Don’t ever develop a mindset where you feel like you can make it solely on your own—you will fail miserably. You may think that you can be happy all by yourself because of your wealth, achievements, degrees, and etc., but none of those things you can truly enjoy all by yourself. Ultimately, you’re going to want to share the value of those aforementioned things with at least one special person.
If you have special people in your life who have really proved to you that they love you, then you need to let them know you truly appreciate them. Don’t walk around trying to prove to them that you don’t need them—prove to them that you love them and appreciate them. Why are you walking around trying to prove to someone who truly loves you that you don’t need him or her, especially when the person has not given you any reason to need to prove this?
You need to know that people can replace you. They can find another person to be that person you are to them. You’re not so great that your replacement is difficult to find. In fact, your replacement may already be someone a person has in his or her life.
Get real—you’re not irreplaceable!
Antonio Maurice Daniels
University of Wisconsin-Madison