It’s important for people to understand that being vain is evil. While one might like to think that those who are vain cannot hurt anyone but themselves, this cannot be further from the truth. Those who are truly vain are egregiously selfish. Vain people make everything about them. They see nothing and no one as more vital than themselves.
You have to be really careful about being even the slightest bit materialistic. Even being the slightest bit materialistic can cause you to focus only on yourself and overlook the needs and feelings of others.
You know you’re recklessly vain when you want people who are going through serious hardships to concentrate their attention mainly or solely on you. Even when you are recovering from a tragedy, some vain people will be upset with you because you didn’t make them a priority. This type of thought and behavior is dangerous.
Truly vain people are not concerned about the welfare of others. If everything’s okay with them, then they could really care less if things are going wrong with others.
A number of vain people like to camouflage how selfish they are by promoting themselves as being selfless. They may also involve themselves in social justice efforts, charities, and etc. What’s crucial to understand about this, however, is they lack an authentic commitment to those aforementioned things. In involving themselves in these things, their primary motivation is self-aggrandizement. Don’t automatically assume that those who are advocating selflessness are actually selfless. It may simply be a cheap ploy to get all of the attention on them. You can properly determine this by examining a person’s record when it comes to charitable efforts and causes. Look for real evidence of a person having made a sustained difference in the lives of people. Make sure that person didn’t cut and run from those he or she was supposed to be helping.
When vain people no longer have any use for you, they will no longer have anything to do with you. They will try to veil their selfishness by saying, “Sometimes, people just grow apart,” or “Sometimes, it’s best not to try to fix some relationships.” What they are hiding is the truth, though: they can no longer find any ways those persons can benefit them. This leads them to casting those people away. When the persons make efforts to expose their selfishness, the vain people tell lies on them and say that they are envious of them.
Again, while you may think your selfishness is not hurting anyone, your selfishness hurts many. Learn to see that life is about more than you. Stop always making everything about you. If you don’t discontinue being vain, your current world is going to crumble right before your very own eyes.
Antonio Maurice Daniels
University of Wisconsin-Madison
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- 9 Differences Between Selfish and Selfless Leaders (huffingtonpost.com)