Be Yourself

10 Tips to Improve Your Self-Esteem

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Numerous people can benefit from a significant improvement in their self-esteem. When you have low self-esteem or unsatisfactory self-esteem, don’t be ashamed; take steps to boost it. You possess the authority necessary to take control of your life. A healthy self-esteem is essential for a healthy life to materialize. Recognizing how important a strong self-esteem is to a productive and fulfilling life, this piece offers ten tips to aid you in strengthening your self-esteem.

1. Take Charge of Your Own Life. This is your life—choose what you want it to do for you. Make life submit to you; don’t allow it to dominate you.

2. Accept the Notion that You Are Responsible for You. When you claim responsibility for your life and are able to own your failures and celebrate your successes, you place yourself on the path to a healthier self-esteem.

3. Reject Those Committed to Destroying You. Surround yourself with people committed to building you up and advancing you. Disconnect from those who consistently attempt to undermine and attack you. Refuse to allow your friends and family to destroy you with their words and actions. If necessary, separate yourself from them.

4. Speak Positive Words to Yourself. People with an unproductive self-esteem constantly speak negative words to themselves. Their thought-life is consumed with self-defeating thoughts and images.

5. Take Calculated Risks. If you’re going to reach your full potential, comfort zones must be eradicated. Comfort zones kill dreams; comfort zones extinguish passions; comfort zones limit possibilities. Never permit the fear of failure to prevent you from tackling a challenge.

6. Discontinue Comparing Yourself to Others. Focus on yourself. Become the best version of yourself possible.

7. Love Yourself. You will never experience true happiness and joy when you fail to love yourself.

8. Be Trustworthy and Loyal. Let your words and actions prove you to be trustworthy and loyal.

9. Win with Grace, Lose with Class. Be a great winner and lose honorably.

10. Be a Giver. Being an authentic giver fills you with joy and dismantles the elements that compose low self-esteem.

Dr. Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison    

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Revolutionary Paideia’s Focus and Objective

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Revolutionary Paideia’s is focused on the foremost postmodern issues and problems facing those situated in America and across the globe.  Instead of shying away from controversy, Revolutionary Paideia engages controversy and looks to stimulate important discourses that emerge from controversy.  Specifically, what’s this site focused on?  It’s focused on the trending and not-so-trending controversies.  Although many writers seek to find their niche, Revolutionary Paideia has resisted becoming just another “niche site.”

This site largely features pieces on education, popular culture, black culture, sports, current events and personal development, with a special concern for helping individuals learn to be themselves.  While the aforementioned topics are the most covered topics on this site, Revolutionary Paideia refuses to classify itself as being this or that or being a part of a certain niche community.  Revolutionary Paideia does demonstrate a strong concern for issues and problems related to and impacting Black people, but it would be improper to label this site as a Black culture blog.  How would you properly label this blog?  It’s a cultural commentary blog.  It’s focused on providing smart commentary on pressing and interesting issues of our postmodern period.

What’s the primary objective of Revolutionary Paideia?  This blog longs for people across America and the globe to have a renewed interest in inquiry, ideas and debate.  We need more genuine spaces that give people an equal voice and the liberty to express themselves as they please.  Revolutionary Paideia is place where innovative ideas can be explored and those who offer those ideas can receive insightful feedback.  We become a better country and better world when we permit our ideas to lead us to solutions to many of our complex problems.  This blog is unafraid to engage people on issues that many, if not most, try to avoid, including race, religion, class and sexuality.  If you would like to have serious discourses about those aforementioned issues and many other controversial topics, then you’ve found the right place.

Revolutionary Paideia is a space where you can even feel free to request that certain topics, challenges and/or problems are addressed.  Many of the pieces that appear on this site are products of requests by readers. Never feel that your suggestions will be shot down.  All of your suggestions will be seriously considered. Readers, therefore, play a significant role in helping to shape what appears on the blog.  One of the greatest ways to demonstrate to readers that they matter is to allow them to see their ideas and feedback come to fruition on your site.

Revolutionary Paideia is truly appreciative of how its many readers have contributed immensely to the site’s success over the last four and a half years.

This site strives to meet the needs of real people.  If you’re struggling with challenges and problems that have gone unmet, this site wants to research and develop the solutions you need.  Don’t have any fear about asking for help here.

Revolutionary Paideia wants to empower you to find your voice, express your ideas, and be yourself.

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison

Be Yourself: A Simple But Powerful Message

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Be yourself.  In the postmodern epoch, too many people in the United States and across the globe are focused on being “people-pleasers” and aren’t focused on simply being who they are.  When you exercise the freedom you have to be yourself, you open up a world of new possibilities for yourself.  People who don’t have the courage to be themselves are being dominated by the bondage of fear.  You can make a decision today to liberate yourself from the bondage of fear.  Fear arrests your development.

Never be afraid to chart your own course in life.  Don’t worry about not seeing a model of who you would like to become—be the person and change you desire to see.

It’s never too late to start living a life of true freedom.  You’re not really liberated until you make the decision to live your life on your own terms.

Give yourself the chance to be the best you.  This is only possible by releasing yourself from the pressure to be someone who you aren’t.

Live your best life.  Muster the courage to be yourself.

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison

Being Vain is Evil

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It’s important for people to understand that being vain is evil.  While one might like to think that those who are vain cannot hurt anyone but themselves, this cannot be further from the truth.  Those who are truly vain are egregiously selfish.  Vain people make everything about them.  They see nothing and no one as more vital than themselves.

You have to be really careful about being even the slightest bit materialistic.  Even being the slightest bit materialistic can cause you to focus only on yourself and overlook the needs and feelings of others.

You know you’re recklessly vain when you want people who are going through serious hardships to concentrate their attention mainly or solely on you. Even when you are recovering from a tragedy, some vain people will be upset with you because you didn’t make them a priority.  This type of thought and behavior is dangerous.

Truly vain people are not concerned about the welfare of others.  If everything’s okay with them, then they could really care less if things are going wrong with others.

A number of vain people like to camouflage how selfish they are by promoting themselves as being selfless.  They may also involve themselves in social justice efforts, charities, and etc.  What’s crucial to understand about this, however, is they lack an authentic commitment to those aforementioned things. In involving themselves in these things, their primary motivation is self-aggrandizement.  Don’t automatically assume that those who are advocating selflessness are actually selfless.  It may simply be a cheap ploy to get all of the attention on them.  You can properly determine this by examining a person’s record when it comes to charitable efforts and causes.  Look for real evidence of a person having made a sustained difference in the lives of people.  Make sure that person didn’t cut and run from those he or she was supposed to be helping.

When vain people no longer have any use for you, they will no longer have anything to do with you. They will try to veil their selfishness by saying, “Sometimes, people just grow apart,” or “Sometimes, it’s best not to try to fix some relationships.”  What they are hiding is the truth, though: they can no longer find any ways those persons can benefit them. This leads them to casting those people away. When the persons make efforts to expose their selfishness, the vain people tell lies on them and say that they are envious of them.

Again, while you may think your selfishness is not hurting anyone, your selfishness hurts many.  Learn to see that life is about more than you.  Stop always making everything about you.  If you don’t discontinue being vain, your current world is going to crumble right before your very own eyes.

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison