Rekindling Old Flames

You should always be open to the possibility of reuniting with someone you’ve had a relationship with in the past.  Now, in no way does this piece argue that you should always get back involved with your past loves, but it does contend that you should not close your mind to considering getting back together with any of your past loves.  Of course, if you are currently married or in a relationship with someone right now, this article is not addressed to you.  This article is focused on those who are single.  Never close your mind to an opportunity to give someone a second chance, and never close your mind to giving yourself a second chance to be loved.

People can change.  The conditions and circumstances present when you were together can and do change.  When you were once with a past love, the person could have been too immature for you or you may not have been compatible at the time.  However, we all know that time brings about a change.  A possibility exists that you could be more compatible with the person now and he or she be more mature now.

Since you’ve been apart from the person, you may have grown too.  You may have worked out some inner and outer things that make you a better fit for the person.  Your views and evaluations of the person may have changed, considering time offers you an opportunity in all areas of your life to grow.  Things that were such serious problems at the time you were with the person may be insignificant to you now.

Time may have afforded you an opportunity to focus on the value of a past relationship and caused you to realize that you missed the real meaning, purpose, and significance of the relationship because you were too focused on the wrong thing(s).  After you’ve had some relationships with other people, you may have learned that your past loves are not as horrible as you once thought.  Time may have provided you with an opportunity to realize that you’re still in love with someone and never have stopped loving them.  Your pride may have prevented you from expressing your love to them, considering they may have hurt you so deeply in the past.  Your pride can also cause you to try to bury your true feelings and love for a person.  Don’t let your pride keep you from rekindling love.

Now, if you know that a person has not changed, and you know that you’re still not compatible with a person, then please don’t waste your time with going down that same failed road.

You can begin the discourse with a past love about the potential of getting back together by just communicating that you want to talk about the potential of reuniting.  Don’t shy away from expressing how you really feel about the person right now, and never be afraid of discussing the positive and negative moments from your past relationship.  If you are to have a successful relationship with the person this time, frank communication is mandatory.  Many relationships fail because people are not willing to have open and frank communication with one another.

Again, this piece does not attempt to communicate that you should get back with your past loves just because you’re single, but it does assert that you should never close your mind to the possibility of considering rekindling a past relationship.  True critical thinkers are always open to consider anything.  This does not mean that you have to act on everything you consider—you shouldn’t.

You may never know what the power of renewing a love with a past love can do for you right now, especially if you completely close your mind to considering it.

Be open.  Consider the possibilities.

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison


  1. I can dig this….

    I look at it like this maybe you weren’t meant to be together during that time. And now you two are in the perfect place at this point in time to be together.

    Great & Well Written Post!!

    1. Thanks, Sunny! Yes, things may just be lining up right for two people who once shared a relationship that didn’t work. Now, the atmosphere may be just right for them. People need to maintain an openness to at least consider reuniting with past loves. Thanks for reading and your feedback!

      1. Indeed…and no problem with reading it. It was very interesting. I’m so used to people saying “their an EX for a reason.” LOL

  2. Maurice,

    PREAAAAAAAAAAACH! In as much as you say that this article is not telling us to reconnect, indirectly that is exactly what you are saying, and brother man, you are right. Right on the money! Matter of fact you are a mental stalker, because this right hurrrr is my reality!!!!!! I’ve actually invested in a thesaurus so as to come up with more original names other than, “sweethear” “honey”, ” darling”…I might have to import some juju from Africa-ours is VERY potent it never fails. But then again, I know a couple of Haitian peeps who know where the good good can be found.

    On a serious note, FRANK communication is the key, the lock, and the bolt! You already know, UMIME!!!!!

    ps: This might very well be your best pieces yet!

    1. Lol! Thanks! You know I always look forward to your feedback. Frank communication is vital for any relationship to have staying power. Most people, however, shy away from frank communication because they would rather bury truth than deal with it. Thanks for being a loyal reader and for your response. Happy Thanksgiving!

  3. Oh Antonio, this one article hit a nerve big time! I’m not going to elaborate, but lets just say I often ask myself should I take a person back that I was together with for 7 years. This gives me a lot to think about, I just have to weigh the pros and cons. Another great post!

    1. Thanks! We have to have the willingness to consider those past loves. We don’t have to take them back but, as critical thinkers, we have to keep our minds open to a mere consideration of the possibility. In our serious contemplations about our past loves, we may find that they are still no good for us and we may find that we can reconnect with them. Thanks for reading and your response!

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