Jealousy

Letter to Revolutionary Paideia Readers about Envious People

Envy

Beware of envious people!

Dear Revolutionary Paideia readers:

You would like to think that people who are claiming to be good people would not be envious of you and wouldn’t try to tear you down.  You cannot, however, let your guard down just because people claim to be good people.  Many of the most envious people are the ones you least expect.  Many of the people who are shaking your hand, patting you on the back, and giving sundry expressions of praise are people who secretly wish negative things for you.  It’s vital for you to open your natural and spirit eyes to see what people who are close and not close to you are attempting to do to you.  Listen to what they say about you, even when they’re using third person.

One tactic envious people employ is making an effort to attack you for having one or more things they desire.  They will attempt to use what you have that they want against you.  For example, if a person is envious of you because you’re more educated, he or she might claim that the reason you obtained the level of education you did was to have your ego stroked.  Trust me, most people (if not all) are not gaining high levels of academic training just to have their egos stroked.  After all, folks have to eat and they may have a longing to eat better than you do, which contributes to their efforts to pursue more academic training than you have.

Don’t be envious of people who are more educated than you are.  Listen to them and learn from them.  Don’t try to suggest negative things about them simply because you hate that you cannot speak with the great insight as they do, and don’t hate on them because people would rather listen to what they have to say than what you have to say.  Do your best—that’s all you can do.

Your energy can be better invested in things that are going to make you better rather than on things that attempt to distract and tear down someone you envy.  While it’s not good for young people to be controlled by an envious spirit, it’s even more ridiculous when you have people in their forties, fifties, sixties, and beyond being envious of people much younger than themselves.  You would like to think that people in the aforementioned age range would be more mature and have more wisdom than this.  If you’re in the aforementioned age range, you should be encouraging younger people to do well and to continue to do well—not discouraging them, tearing them down, and hating on them.

What can you do to respond to those who are envious of you and want to bring you down?  While it may be difficult to not respond to the negative things your envious critics have to say, resist the temptation to respond to them.  When you respond to them, you empower them by giving them the attention they want.  You elevate them to a level they don’t deserve to be elevated.  Continue to do the great work you’re doing and say nothing in response to them.  Trust me, envious people will stop trying to attack, distract, discredit, and derail you when you stop giving them any attention.  Defeat envious people with your continued success!

Again, keep doing the great work you’re doing.  Don’t be foolish enough to let any envious person halt your progress.

Sincerely,

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison

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People Always Want to Have Something on You

The more successful, popular, intelligent, attractive, articulate, athletic, and/or etc. you are, the more people will go to extremes to try to find something on you to use it against you. Even when you are transparent, open, and unbothered by negative criticism, people will still go to extremes to find something on you to attempt to bring you down. I would also like you all to be watchful of even jokes people make about you because jokes are often used as furtive vehicles for viciously attacking a person and/or trying to make the person feel uncomfortable, terrible, and/or degraded. For those of you who are tremendously transparent, open, and unbothered by negative criticism, as I am, you don’t have to reveal every single thing to people to continue to feel within yourself that you are still transparent, open, and unbothered by negative criticism. When you don’t give those who are seeking to critique or evaluate you the information they are so eager to receive, then don’t feel like you are wavering on your tremendously transparent, open, and unbothered by negative criticism nature.

When people attempt to negatively criticize you or attack you for not giving them the information they desire so that they can use it as a potential opportunity to have something on you, I recommend for you to take this as an opportunity to turn their malevolent attempts into opportunities to unnerve them. You can unnerve them by asking them questions about their motivations for seeking the information they are requesting and asking them why it is so important for them to get the information. When you are clear that they have intentional negative motivations for obtaining the information, go ahead and begin to unsettle them with probing observations and critiques about them. Let them know you know they are trying to hate on you.

What people who attempt to gain negative information on people to use the information against these people don’t understand they are wasting their time. When people have earned such a distinguished reputation and record, their reputation and record is difficult to sabotage. I am not suggesting that people seeking to destroy your reputation and record with negative information cannot succeed, but I want to comfort those of you concerned about people using negative information against you that you should not fear them.

While many of the motivations for people wanting to have something on you to use it against you are conspicuous, I will be spending a little time in the future just thinking about more complex motivations they may have. I will let you all know the fruits of my reflections too.

If you are a person who is always seeking to use something against someone, I would like to hear from you to better understand people like you. If you are afraid to place a comment on my blog, then feel free to contact me at antoniomdaniels@gmail.com.

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison