Be Careful about the Enemies You Intentionally Choose


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Although it would be great to live in a world where we don’t have any enemies, the reality is we all have enemies.  Most people don’t choose their enemies.  Some people elect to make individuals their enemies.  If you intentionally work to develop an enemy, you better make sure you can completely handle that enemy.  This can be the person who ruins your life forever.  It’s quite foolish to actively seek a person to become your enemy.  Most people work tremendously hard to keep people from being their enemies and avoid those who are their enemies.  While it may sound strange for an individual to want someone to be his or her enemy, this happens more often than one may think. 

When this does happen, the person who desires for a specific individual to be his or her enemy thinks he or she really knows the targeted individual.  Once the person learns that you’re trying to start a feud with him or her, the individual will probably not employ tactics you anticipate.  The person will probably adopt a strategy or strategies to respond to your attacks that will surprise you.  Will you be ready for the surprises your newly desired enemy has for you? 

Don’t start a war that you cannot win!

People’s egos, arrogance, poor judgment, emotions, low self-esteem, unhappiness, and etc. often cause them to begin fights they cannot win.  This is why it’s vital to take a serious moment and deeply reflect on things before you make drastic errors.  A moment of irrationality can cause you a lifetime of pain.

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison

Is It Useful to Get Revenge?

Before you begin to think critically about the question the title poses, let’s suspend our religious beliefs and values for this particular discourse.  Of course, the bible informs us to let God fight our battles.  However, let’s remove ourselves from the teachings of the bible for at least this discourse to explore whether getting revenge is useful.  Even if you have difficulty with temporarily suspending your religious beliefs and values to enter this discourse, you may find that you would arrive at how you feel about revenge without the teachings you have received in your religious sects.  It can be quite beneficial to explore whether or not we gain any true benefits from seeking revenge on those who have wronged us.

Although some may see it as childish for adults to seek revenge, it’s vital to consider that many wars throughout history have been fought to obtain revenge.  Therefore, unless you’re prepared to offer a serious argument for why many wars that have been fought throughout history have been childish, then don’t just call an adult childish for desiring to seek revenge.  While we have to brush many things off of our shoulders in life, considering we cannot fight every battle, there are times when we need to make people pay for the terrible things they’ve done to us.

If someone just walks up and slaps you in the face, do you let him or her get away with this?  If you catch someone in the act of destroying your property, do you simply let him or her get away with this?

Are there times when seeking revenge is justified?

You cannot allow people to do everything to you and not make them suffer some consequences.  While you may have been taught to be the better person and not to try to seek revenge on another person, this teaching can cause you to get trampled on by many people.  If people are out there attacking you, then you need to defend yourself against their attacks.  At some point, you have to respond to serious attacks.  Don’t think constant attacks will not have their impact on you—they will.

When you’re engaged in a battle with someone, use all legal things at your disposal to defeat him or her.  Never come away from a battle talking about what you could have done to win that battle—do it while you’re in the battle.  Don’t feel sorry for those who are out there trying to destroy you.  Do you think they are concerned about you?  Why be concerned about them?

There may come a time when you have to get revenge on a family member or close friend.  You have to be willing to make a family member or close friend who has intentionally sought to harm you pay for intentional wrongs.  Don’t concern yourself with taking it easy on a family member or close friend who has not demonstrated a true concern for you through their words and/or actions.  Would a true close friend or family member intentionally and maliciously attempt to hurt you?  If the answer is yes, then you have to be willing to show him or her that you’re not going to sit around and allow him or her to destroy you.  Fight back!

Some people think everything is okay when they are doing the attacking, but they really think you have done them viciously wrong when you strike back at them.  When some people are out there doing and saying horrible things about you, they need to think more deeply about what power, talents, influence, and etc. you possess before they intentionally do and say things to hurt you.

If you feel the need to get revenge on someone, don’t let anyone deter you—go for it!

Do you think it’s useful to get revenge on someone who has wronged you?

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison

Crush Your Lightweights

When you’re a heavyweight, you should never get derailed by a lightweight. A heavyweight is a person who has the courage to truly be himself or herself, has the courage to live life without limits, and is a true star. A lightweight is a person who masquerades daily, refuses to truly be himself or herself, tries to destroy heavyweights because envy and jealousy consumes him or her, is always looking for something to attack heavyweights about, lives in darkness but loves to pretend like he or she exemplifies light, and is simply not worthy enough to hold your jockstrap or remove your panty liner. Although you cannot let lightweights distract you, you cannot simply let them keep attacking you either. Eventually, you just have to crush the lightweights that are always running their mouths, always attacking you, always up to no good, and always trying to do undercover things to try to misrepresent or portray you in a way that tries to take away from your greatness so that they can go from invisible to visible. Use your power as a heavyweight to crush them.

I’m not in any way encouraging you to kill anyone. You don’t have to be violent to crush your lightweight enemies. Simply expose them! Do some of the same things they do to show them how it’s done.  Show them your true power. Crush them! Focus on their weaknesses and crush them! You can underestimate your lightweight enemies if you want to. Over time, your lightweight enemies can begin to cause you serious trouble. Therefore, just as when you first begin to see some roaches in your house, you immediately use all things available to you to exterminate them before they metastasize into an unmanageable problem. You have to stop your lightweight enemies in their tracks before they even begin to get going good. Don’t be so arrogant that you think that your enemies cannot have some impact on you. Again, crush them!

You simply got to love yourself enough to go to war for yourself. I try not to punch first but I don’t mind counterpunching (metaphorically speaking).

Again, use their weaknesses to get them off of you for good. Yes, you have weaknesses but, as a heavyweight, you are not seriously harmed by them trying to retaliate against you by attempting to exploit your weaknesses. You can take out your lightweight enemies if you are willing to fully expose at least one of their weaknesses. When you do this, your lightweight enemies are gone for good.

Don’t forget the aforementioned definition of a lightweight. A lightweight’s greatest weakness and greatest fear is being exposed. Expose your lightweight enemies in the many ways that you can and you will not have to deal with them.

As heavyweight, I know that you would just wish that people would not try to attack you, but you cannot simply “wish” and “hope” them away—you have to become the aggressor and let them feel your power. When they feel your power, they will no longer be in your way.  Don’t simply let your enemies be at war with you while you just sit up there looking stupid. You can sit up there and act like you are so above counterpunching—your enemies will inevitably knock you down for the count if you don’t respond to them in a timely manner.

I’ve got five rocks and I’ve not thrown one yet! Sometimes you just gotta fight!

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison