For over 13 years, Santresa Glass has gotten on my nerves and continues to get on my nerves. Although I have had to endure her getting on my nerves for such a long time, she’s unquestionably my best friend. San, as she’s affectionately known, is a beautiful person, inside and out. One of the central reasons why I cherish our friendship is she’s never looking to simply use me to obtain something she wants or needs; she loves me just for who I am. We share a metaphysical relationship and love. Our love for one another is so deep that many people think we are intimately involved—she can only dream that this will happen one day. Our relationship is akin to the relationship Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King share. I will always treasure our relationship.
When a problem arises in my life, she does not contribute it; she’s there to support me through the problem. We always know that we can count on each other.
If more people could experience a relationship like the one we have, the world would be a better place.
San, I’m super proud of all of your accomplishments. You know that I’ve witnessed the highs and lows life has presented you. The lows have been pretty low and the highs have been pretty high. Through it all, you’ve made it. You have blossomed into a remarkable woman. In a few weeks, you will earn your doctoral degree in Organizational Leadership—what an awesome accomplishment! (On the official day you complete all requirements for your doctoral degree, I will pen a piece focused solely on this accomplishment.)
Although I’ve always cherished our friendship, it was not until 2009 that I truly understood just how valuable of a best friend she is. We never become too old to learn. Life has taught me that there are special elements about the friendship that are absent in my other friendships. What’s odd about our chemistry is we disagree 99% of the time. I am right 100% of the time, however.
It’s such a great feeling to know that our friendship is not dependent on what I can do for her, and it’s wonderful to know that what I can do for her does not define our friendship.
Our relationship is envied by so many that we’re responsible for a number of people just popping up with “best friends” all of a sudden and/or falsely characterizing their relationships with others as “best friends” when they know full well this characterization is dishonest.
Today, in my own unique way, I want to wish Santresa L. Glass a Happy 34th Birthday! Enjoy your day and your day off.
Antonio Maurice Daniels
University of Wisconsin-Madison