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Although it can be quite difficult to forgive people sometimes, it’s essential that you forgive them. You may feel that the people have done things to you and/or stated things about you that make them unworthy of forgiveness. Everyone deserves forgiveness, however. When you’re unwilling to forgive others, you hold yourself back from progressing. You will continue to carry the weight of unforgiveness around with you. Holding grudges robs you of living a life liberated from the control of others. When you fail to forgive individuals who have wronged you, you’re allowing the things they’ve done to you to control you.
When you forgive people for their errors, you make room in your life for greater things to happen in it.
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Forgiving individuals does not mean you have to become friends with them and hang out with them. It means you have released yourself and them from any personal animosity, malevolent thoughts, and desires for revenge you may have harbored. This will also let the people who you’ve forgiven know that you hold nothing against them. When you forgive people, this does not mean that they will not face consequences for their wrongs. They still will experience the repercussions of their errors. At that point, what they will go through is out of your hands. You’ve done your part and that’s all that matters.
Don’t spend the rest of your life thinking about ways you’re going to get revenge on your enemies. This is a complete waste of your time. Your enemies have wasted enough of your time; therefore, don’t help them to waste more of it.
If you forgive a person for phenomena he or she has done to you, then you may discover that the act of forgiveness enables you to restore a relationship with him or her. Forgiveness can, therefore, pave the way for necessary relationships to be mended. It can also give you peace to deal with those relationships that need to end or remain severed. In no way does having a forgiving heart mean that you have to let people run over you. A forgiving heart permits you to recognize that human beings are fallible creatures needing to be forgiven because of their inability to achieve perfection.
Make an important decision to forgive everyone who has ever done you wrong. If you really want to see maximum growth in your life, visit, call or write the people you’re forgiving to inform them that you’ve forgiven them and what you’ve forgiven them for doing and/or saying. Be specific too.
We continue to have unproductive arguments and fights with one another because we’re too immature to resolve our issues through sincere and apt communication.
When you apologize to someone, don’t apologize because you got caught; apologize because you’re genuinely sorry. Faux apologizes will only exacerbate quandaries between you and others. Many people will respond positively to authentic apologies.
Today, empower yourself by forgiving someone for his or her wrongdoings.
Antonio Maurice Daniels
University of Wisconsin-Madison