Don’t Be Fooled

Fool No More

There comes a time when you have to show people how important you are to them.  Many people will try to take advantage of you and you need to respond to those people by having some fun at their expense.  The one thing you can do to have some fun at their expense is to take everything away from them that you give to them.  If it is possible, you can simply remove yourself from them by not communicating with them and keeping your distance from them.  While they may attempt to act like your failure to communicate with them and hang around them has no impact, their internal truths unveil to them that your presence in their lives is truly vital.

Why should you have some fun at the expense of people who fail to appreciate you for what you truly mean in their lives?  Well, at some point, you have to stop being people’s play toy and begin to show folks that you have backbone.  If you do choose to do something for them while you are toying with them, require them to do things in exchange for what they want from you that you know they really do not want to do.  While they may not do what you ask them to do, you can simply enjoy the experience of them acting like they do not need you when they decline to do what you ask them to do, or you can simply sit back and gain great satisfaction in watching them do the things you know they do not want to do.  Is this really being cruel to these individuals?  Not at all!  They were not concerned with how they were treating you, so do not waste a whole lot of time thinking about what your fun at their expense is doing to them.  You have spent enough time worrying about them.  Take the time, energy, and resources you invest in them and devote them more to yourself and deserving people.

Now, if you have family and friends who have been underappreciating you, then you cannot simply let them continue to do this.  You have to make up in your mind that enough is enough!  Don’t let even the closest family member and friend take advantage of you any longer.  When close family and friends are trying to take advantage of you, you need to reconsider just how close you need to remain to them.  It’s okay to distance yourself completely from close family members and friends.  Let them feel what life is like without you.  They may just learn how to show you they appreciate you.

Before you begin to communicate and/or hang around these people again, make sure they have conspicuously evinced that they learned what it means to appreciate you.  For those people who want to keep acting like they don’t need you in their lives, then let them continue to suffer without you being in their lives.  Continue to enjoy watching them try to scramble to make things work for themselves when they know life is so much more difficult without what you have so generously provided and provide for them.

While it may be an ugly truth you don’t want to face, you must face it: refuse to continue to be people’s fool.  Turn the people who have tried to make you a fool into the true fools. Refuse to be used! Refuse to lose!  You cannot win in life when you keep letting everyone leech off of you and take advantage of you.  There’s a clear difference between being nice and being stupid.  Learn the difference and put your learning into practice.

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison

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Even If You Have to Lose Everything Don’t Surrender Your Principle

In the end, we will all be judged by not only what we have said, but also by the deeds that have been done in our bodies. Even though doing the right thing may be costly sometimes, it’s still worth the cost. It’s always worth the cost to defend and maintain your principle. On the Day of Judgment, God will honor those who have withstood the tests of their principle. I just thought that I would encourage somebody today who might be thinking that it’s not worth it to keep defending and maintaining his or her principle, but I want you to know that the Devil wants you to give up on what makes you purposeful, wholesome, and unique. Embrace your difference. Difference is essential!

Although everyone around you might be giving up his or her principle to get temporary gains, don’t give up your principle for these temporary gains. When those temporary gains seem so attractive, remember that they are just that—temporary! If you are a principled person, you will not leave your principle at home. If you are a principled person, you will not let people fool you into relinquishing your principle. Your principle should always guide you to do the right thing, even when other people are telling you that it’s okay to surrender your principle just for one time.

Even when times are going rough, don’t be weary about the conditions you are facing. God will reward you for being principled, and He will bring you out of the difficult circumstances you are experiencing. For those who are principled people, God did not give you anything to lose, but all to gain. Don’t get so caught up into things and moments that you forget about the principle that has enabled you to get to where you are today.

If you have allowed yourself to give up your principle for someone and/or something that you did not give your best thought to, you don’t have to wallow in your own pity—just ask God forgiveness and get your principle back. Stay committed to your principle. You will certainly lose respect in God’s eye when you constantly vacillate on your principle. Be willing to lose everything for your principle to gain it all in the end!

Antonio Maurice Daniels

University of Wisconsin-Madison