You can make yourself look and feel like a fool when you think that a person was and is so mesmerized by you sexually—when in reality, he or she was just having sex with you just because you were available. Some people think that because a person was asking and/or wanting to have sex with them a significant number of times means that he or she has an obsession. If you’re this type of person, then you need to reconsider your thinking. If a person has a high sex drive or is just looking for affection because there is really not many options available in the area, then you’ve got to understand that it’s not really about how great you are, but more about you being able to supply the person’s needs. Therefore, don’t go around thinking that you’re all that because the person was desiring you so much—he or she could have been just using you for sex, and you’re going around thinking that he or she just cannot get enough of you.
You have to understand that people have sexual needs and when options to have sex are limited, you may just be their means to an end.
While you are out telling people that the person is obsessed with you, you must have been obsessed with the person too because you were willing to have sex with him or her so many times. Did you ever think about this? Did the thought ever cross your mind that you were the one getting dominated and played?
Just because someone asked and/or wanted to have sex with you a significant number of times does not mean that you are a good sexual performer. Again, if he or she has limited options available, then you are just his or her most reasonable option to having sexual intercourse. Now, when people have extremely high sex drives, they may try to get sex from almost anyone available. Therefore, you could be that person who was just available to help them satisfy their sexual appetite.
For those of you who think that you are some type of sexual prize, you might need to reconsider your thinking. You might just be someone’s useful idiot. Did you ever consider that you are and/or have been someone’s useful idiot?
Things are not always what they seem.
Excessive arrogance can cause you to overestimate your sexual worth. It can cause you to not try to make yourself better each time you have sex. Therefore, while you thought that you were providing the individual with the greatest sexual experience that he or she has ever had each time you had sex, you really were not because your excessive arrogance led you to never ask how you performed.
If you’re a whore, that is, you have had sex with so many people, then you should not be parading around like you’re something special. Please! Everyone in town has probably slept with you. What’s special about you now?
Be careful about thinking that everybody wants you. It can be that they see you’re just easy and always available. Do you feel so arrogant now?
Antonio Maurice Daniels
University of Wisconsin-Madison
Many people think that they’re irreplaceable. Please think again. There’s nothing that’s so special about you that cannot replaced. When people start to demonstrate to you that they believe that you cannot make it without them, then you need to show them that you can. You will find out that you don’t need those people in your life who feel that you’re nothing without them. Who are they to think this in the first place? People can think that they’re so much better than you, but you have to let them know that they’re thinking far too highly of themselves. You can communicate just how much you’re not dependent on the people in your live who feel like you cannot make it without out them by severing all connections and communication with them. Then they will have an opportunity to understand how they can be replaced.
It’s excessive hubris that causes people to consider themselves as irreplaceable.
When you erase those folks who act like they’re irreplaceable from your life, they will start to see just how valuable you’re to them. Unfortunately, it could be too late for them to have a chance to have you to once again become a part of their lives again. It can be quite challenging to get someone to become a part of your life again once they have made a firm commitment to erase you from his or her life. Therefore, don’t allow your thinking, words, and actions to put you in a position where someone you really love feels compelled to erase you from his or her life.
You can also fool yourself into believing that people are not important in your life. You can pretend like people don’t offer you many physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual benefits. When people become fed up with you not valuing them and taking advantage of them, they will inevitably break all ties to you. In the end, you will have to determine whether your excessive pride was more important than what you lost in those people.
No man or woman is an island. Therefore, we all need people in our lives to help us and care for us. Don’t ever develop a mindset where you feel like you can make it solely on your own—you will fail miserably. You may think that you can be happy all by yourself because of your wealth, achievements, degrees, and etc., but none of those things you can truly enjoy all by yourself. Ultimately, you’re going to want to share the value of those aforementioned things with at least one special person.
If you have special people in your life who have really proved to you that they love you, then you need to let them know you truly appreciate them. Don’t walk around trying to prove to them that you don’t need them—prove to them that you love them and appreciate them. Why are you walking around trying to prove to someone who truly loves you that you don’t need him or her, especially when the person has not given you any reason to need to prove this?
You need to know that people can replace you. They can find another person to be that person you are to them. You’re not so great that your replacement is difficult to find. In fact, your replacement may already be someone a person has in his or her life.
Get real—you’re not irreplaceable!
Antonio Maurice Daniels
University of Wisconsin-Madison