The waning embracement of loyalty is becoming ever so lucid throughout America. When you fail to be loyal to your family and friends, you invite disloyalty to your doorstep. The costs of being loyal are significantly less than the repercussions of being disloyal. Often those who are disloyal to their family and friends are governed by a spirit of selfishness. This spirit of selfishness frequently defines those who are disloyal. Most folks willing to be disloyal will try to make everything about them. If you, therefore, have friends and family members who attempt to make everything about themselves, then they have great potential to be disloyal to you.
Although it can be quite emotionally painful to have someone you trust be disloyal to you, it can be empowering: You have a chance to learn his or her real name: Enemy. Once you discover his or her true name, treat the person accordingly. The discovery of disloyalty will remove the blinders from your eyes about the person. This will enable you to invest your time in people who genuinely love and support you. Even when people painstakingly endeavor to conceal their disloyalty, disloyalty has a way of being revealed to you. Disloyal people tend to have disloyal friends, family members, and associates, and those individuals often—without the least thought and regret—communicate the disloyalty to the victims.
While it can seem easy to respond to this piece by saying, “Don’t trust everyone,” some of the victimizers can be people you’ve never had any reason to suspect of being disloyal. You should not immediately blame the victim. It’s not healthy to go around distrusting everyone but it’s wise to keep your eyes and ears open.
Should a family member or friend be forgiven for being disloyal?
Forgive everyone for everything. The disloyal will inevitably receive justice. You will recover from the pain disloyal people have inflict on you—just don’t let that pain stifle your progress. Find the strength to overcome this pain or it will accomplish just what your enemies hoped it would: destruction.
After reading this piece, let your loyal family members and friends know how much you really appreciate, love and support them. Being a victim of disloyalty offers you powerful insights about why your loyal family members and friends are so valuable.
As a quick reminder to disloyal people, your actions can cause those same evil seeds you planted in one place to sprout at your doorsteps. You do reap what you sow.
Antonio Maurice Daniels
University of Wisconsin-Madison